I honestly could not wait to become Mrs. My husband and I have known each other since I was in second grade, and he in third. He moved here from Indiana in 1993. I remember the day he got on my bus, I just watched him. This new boy with dark hair and blue eyes; he looked like no other boy I had ever seen. Granted, I was only 7, I knew there was something special about him.
Slowly but surly, we started to talk and forge a friendship. He lived in the neighborhood next to mine. Had a sister who was the same age as my sister, and played baseball. He would sit next to me on the bus and we would just talk. This was the extent of our elementary school relationship, talking, getting to know one another, and listening to what we had to say.
As we grew into middle schoolers, our talks got a little more serious. We would talk on the bus…and we would even call each other on our house phones! (Yes, we had to endure our parents answering the phone, and asking permission to speak to our friend.) As serious as a child in middle school can talk and hold onto a conversation, our talks would include what teachers were hard, how I should do this or that to be cool…and we talked about whom we liked! Of course, neither of us knew that under all of our immaturity, we liked each other.
He started high school a year before me…I had moved and no longer lived a few streets away from him…we lost touch. We would see each other around town, say a quick hello, and go on with our lives. It wasn’t until I started high school did he realize that we needed to be together. I didn’t realize we needed to be together until I was a junior. I made him wait two years before I finally realized that he should be mine!
This is just the start of our story. I tell people all the time that we go back to second and third grade- because we do. We started to build a relationship as children. We built it on interests, communication, and trust. Now, please don’t think that growing into Mr. and Mrs. was a walk in the park. It wasn’t, but I’ve come to realize how truly special your relationship with your spouse is. How truly special my relationship is with my Mr.
I wanted to write to you, during the month of February, (where we celebrate “love”) about how special marriage is. Marriage is not a contract you can break when something “breaks” and you want something else. Marriage is not trial and error. Marriage is a covenant, which means you are in for the long hall. You are in for the good. You are in for the bad. And you stay when it gets ugly, really, really ugly.
Marriage is a vow spoken between three: you, your husband, and God. God owns the copyright of marriage. He as already written your story…he has written some really good and fun times for you to experience. He has also written times where you will need to lean on each other to grow closer together. God has also written times where you will want to run away, forget all of the bad, and give up. God has written those for you to become closer to your spouse, and ultimately Him.
Marriage is one of the best things that I have ever decided to enter into. My Mr. and I have had a wonderful seven and half years of marriage. We have had made some incredible memories. We have accomplished so much in our 15 official years together. My Mr. is more of a man than I could ever dream of having in my life. We’ve had the good, the bad, and the very ugly- and I can say with my whole heart he has been there for me. God knew that my Mr. was what I needed for my love, my laughter, and my happily ever after.